Watch how your mind judges. Judgment comes, in part, out of your own fear. You judge other people because you’re not comfortable in your own being. By judging, you find out where you stand in relation to other people. The judging mind is very divisive. It separates. Separation closes your heart. If you close your heart to someone, you are perpetuating your suffering and theirs. Shifting out of judgment means learning to appreciate your predicament and their predicament with an open heart instead of judging. Then you can allow yourself and others to just be, without separation.
The only game in town is the game of being, which includes both highs and lows. Every time you push something away, it remains there. The pile under the rug gets very big. Your lows turn out to be more interesting than your highs because they are showing you where you’re not, where you have work to do.
You just say, “Thank you for teaching.” You don’t have to judge another being. You just have to work on yourself.
When somebody provokes your anger, the only reason you get angry is because you’re holding on to how you think something is supposed to be. You’re denying how it is. Then you see it’s the expectations of your own mind that are creating your own hell. When you get frustrated because something isn’t the way you thought it would be, examine the way you thought, not just the thing that frustrates you. You’ll see that a lot of your emotional suffering is created by your models of how you think the universe should be and your inability to allow it to be as it is.
– Ram Dass
This topic has many openings for discussion. It’s something I’m still working on clarifying in my own mind. Judgment, discernment, boundaries, pre-incarnate and incarnate choices, taking action, etc, everyone has an opinion. But I really loved how Ram Dass explained this.
The pile under my rug is fairly small, I believe, and often I don’t know that the judgment is even there. It surprises me when the dirt slips out, forcing me to pay attention to it. Bigotry in the name of religion is in my pile under the rug and that showed up when I realized which friends of mine opposed the recent gay marriage ruling. How that affects them personally, I have no clue. And so they judge and then I judge their judgments. Yikes. I think I’ve cleaned the dirt out, and ooh look, more is still under there! I am thankful for the teaching.