The Blame Game


When someone blames another, they are pointing their finger toward the one who they’ve given their power. This means whenever you find yourself on the receiving end of someone else’s blame, accusations, projections, or judgments, it doesn’t have to be a moment of conflict or turmoil, unless you attempt to refute the limiting ideas they suggest about you. As you remember that you don’t owe anyone an explanation, no matter how often they demand one, you may begin to see how those who you feel disempowered by have already handed their power over to you. Whether they know it or not, the reason they are fighting with you is to reclaim the power they are unaware they’ve subconsciously given away.

Those who disapprove of others do so to maintain a false sense of superiority. They subconsciously believe that rejecting others puts them in a position of power, which helps them avoid the threat of rejection they are most afraid to encounter, whether they know it or not. While their words may suggest how inept, imperfect, and powerless you are, their actions suggest otherwise.

Imagine, if you weren’t powerful and important to them, they wouldn’t waste their time and energy trying to convince you of something that demands your approval, just so they can feel justified in their position. Consider these words the next time someone lashes out at you. Instead of asking: “Why have I attracted this?” or assuming their behavior is a mirror of your consciousness, simply relax in the presence of any blame, projection, judgment, or accusation. By slowing your breath and relaxing your body, you allow the power they unknowingly gave you to be returned through the grace of disappointment.

Whether you choose to engage in conflict by giving away your power to the one who unknowingly has given their power to you, consciousness is often inspired to blossom in the aftermath of confrontation. It is here where the brightness of your true self begins to shine through, in the absence of an ego that only frustration, boredom, loneliness, and disappointment are sure to unravel.


3 responses

    • I know. I have had to read and reread this several times. When I put it in the context of warring nations or dictators or the female suppression in the Middle East, I get it. Personally, it’s a bit more difficult. If I think of it like a bully or an unpleasant boss, then it’s easier to understand. They have to put you down so they feel better about themselves. That gives them more power. In my personal interactions lately, this requires more thought, more effort to get through the maze of emotions and see this at the end.


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